Okay, we admit it. Making your guests list is not one of the exciting parts of planning your wedding. We can understand that you prefer cake tasting our choosing your dream wedding dress, though creating your guest list is one of the most important things with which to start.. Of course you only want to share this celebration with your loved ones and friends.

Creating the guest list can cause a lot of arguments and different opinions. You have to be equal in sharing the number of guests between you and your fiancé, but keep in mind that your parents and in-laws also have their feelings about inviting some people.
Take everyone’s view into consideration and use these 6 steps to keep the numbers down while keeping the peace.

Step 1. Dream list

Sit down, get a note and start jotting down names. In fact this is your initial run through of everyone you’d love to have at your wedding. From your old sweet neighbor who taught you how to build a shanty in the backyard to your pen pal from Brazil. Think big and don’t consider any limitations.
TIP: Are there any names popping up at the end of creating your guests list? Do the reality check and go back to this dream list. Let’s face the truth, if they were never on your dream list, why are they really a must-have?

Step 2. Number of guests

Decide your guest list count. You and your fiancé need to make clear what the number of guests will be. Your budget and venue size are the two main factors that should play into this decision. After this determination you divide the total in half so both sides of the family have the same number of guests to invite, fair enough right?
TIP: Establishing a count ahead of time will help you later in the process to cut too many people. 



Step 3. Rules

Should it be this strict? Yes! It will be easier, we promise you. Come up with some rules for yourself, your fiancé and (if it’s necessary) both sides of parents, and follow them. To make this step clearer we have some examples:
- Rule number one: don’t put anyone on the list because you feel guilty not inviting them, because you were drinking cocktails at their wedding or because she gave you a good tip to find your wedding dress.
- Rule number two: you don’t want screaming kids during your ceremony or to pull at your centerpieces at the reception, so no children are allowed.
- Rule number three: your fiancé doesn’t know about that old roommate from high school? Don’t invite her!
TIP: Actually stick to them.

4. A-list & AA-list

This is the hardest part of compiling your guests list. A-list implies Absolutely and AA-list means Almost Absolutely. These two lists are going to help you cut your dream list. The people who you couldn’t imagine not having at your wedding, your family, closest friends and acquaintances, definitely belong on your A-list. In-fact they’re your must-haves. When does it come to the AA-list? If it turns out you have enough regrets, then you’ll start inviting your colleagues, old friends and great grandchildren.
TIP: Do the one-year test. “Have I seen or spoken to this person in the last year?” No? One down, even more to go. 

5. Be clear on the RSvp cards

To avoid misunderstandings and unpleasant surprises you should be very clear with the response cards. You just want your high school friend to come and not to bring her umpteenth ‘lover’? Make sure you only print her name on the card.
This is the same for allowing children to your wedding. It is okay to nix all the under-12-year-olds, but be quite clear on the cards.
TIP: You can make expectations, but don’t be too easy because some people will try to cram two names more on the line to take advantage of a free meal and cocktail. 

6. Later add-ons

Remember those guests that pop into your mind when you are scrolling back into your ‘good old times’? Don’t add them to your list ‘just because’. Go back to your dream list and check if they were actually there.
TIP: Are you not succeeding in creating this perfect list? Then consider having a small wedding with only your loved ones.

You’ll probably have some discussions with your fiancé about the guest list and of course, it is not always easy! But make sure that you only invite the people who you really want to share in this celebration.

(Oh, reminder! Assume that approximately 20 percent of your invited guests will not be able to attend. Does this make it easier?)